On the healing power of our attitude
From Awakening Together Radio
THE SINGING TOES
How Someone Found Healing By Listening To Their Inner Music
An imaginative depiction of a first-hand experience of recovery from long-time chronically progredient MS and recurring depression
Dieter Mittelsten Scheid, MD
What is exceptional about Christoph Engen’s tale of healing is that it is born out of his own personal experience and speaks to us in such a simple and direct language that it can easily reach young people too who are inflicted with physical or mental handicaps. Although the message is not new, it is made accessible to us through the direct experiences of the author and reminds us of our own inner wisdom. In this way it is authentic. The fable encourages us to deal with our illnesses and limitations in a new, playful and creative way; to open our senses to everything we are perceiving in the present moment; to question our negative concepts about ourselves and others; to feel our hearts and to be ready to experience our personal small or big miracles of life. When we follow this path healing effects will materialize and changes will occur in our physical health which we previously never thought possible.
As I read Christoph Engen’s story, I was reminded of an experience I had many years ago, when I spent two weeks alone in a heavily snowed-in hut in the Karwendel mountains in Austria. Initially, I did not find it easy to cope with my sense of loneliness, the coldness and the mice which kept me awake at night. Every evening when my mood sank, I painted a picture—something I had never done before because my ‘me’ was convinced I was unable to paint. They were colorful fantasy paintings of strange magic. In the daytime I would take long walks on my cross-country skis. One afternoon,, as I was walking through the forest, the world suddenly changed for me; I saw the rainbow-colored glittering snow crystals on the trees shine in unearthly beauty and the air reflected a clearness that I had never seen before. All of a sudden everything started talking to me—the rushing brook under the ice and the tremendously high fir trees. The message I heard was simply, ‘We belong together; we are one.’ In an incredible feeling of joy, I hugged the trunk of an exceptionally mighty fir and cried.
I wish that through reading Christoph Engen’s THE SINGING TOES, the readers will also embark on an inner path filled with courageous certainty. The unexpected wonder of life can be experienced when we let go of our negative concepts, when we listen to our inner voice and let ourselves be guided confidently by life.
Dieter Mittelsten Scheid, MD
As the main character of this tale finds healing by following his inner voice, his inner music, I myself got over twenty-three years of multiple sclerosis and recurring depression. The core thoughts which helped me along and keep on helping me day by day are woven into this tale. With all my heart, I thank all those who brought these good thoughts to me and guided me thus to find my way into this incredible stream of healing life within that is our home.
Christoph Engen, May 2014
‘Bring love into your world and you’ll find the Great First Love,’ the old white-haired man had said to Rudy, who had been sitting in his wheelchair, feeling desperate, in front of the mall his mom had just gone into. As he walked on, the old man had turned back to him with an open smile, and had added, ‘And, of course, health, too.’ His eyes had twinkled whimsically. ‘It works. You’ll see. You’ll be running again.’
Rudy lay in his bed and couldn’t stop thinking about his encounter with the old man. He couldn’t sleep. Since his accident, sleeping had been the one remaining pleasure for him, when he could forget about the whole dog’s dinner with the broken legs, and all the pain killers, and all that mess. But now that wasn’t working.
‘Okay,’ thought Rudy, ‘how is this supposed to work? Bring love into my world…’ He rolled laboriously onto his side. Suddenly it felt like he could hear the voice of the old man speaking to him.
‘Hello Rudy. That’s a really good question. I’m profoundly pleased!’
‘Huh???’ Rudy burst out. Such a thing had never happened to him before! Suddenly hearing another voice inside of him! No, not hearing, thinking!
‘Don’t panic,’ the old man’s voice went on‚ ‘You heard me this afternoon in front of the mall. Why shouldn’t you be able to hear me now in your mind?’
Rudy searched for an answer.
‘Don’t worry about it,’ the voice went on. ‘Let’s just answer your question. Well, you love your parents, at least sometimes, and some other people, too. Now it comes down to loving your broken legs, too. Why don’t we start with your toes? They haven’t moved for such a long time.’
‘Since more than two years ago,’ Rudy said sadly.
‘Exactly,’ the old man’s voice said. ‘Give them names!’
‘Huh???’ slipped out of Rudy again, sitting bolt-upright in his bed.
‘What would you like to call your right little toe?’
‘Little asshole’!’ exclaimed Rudy, ‘It hasn’t moved in years!’
‘Alright. And now give your right little toe a nice name. If you call somebody an asshole, they are usually not very happy about it, right?’
Rudy pondered this. ‘Why not?’ he thought.
‘Exactly,’ the old man’s voice said.
‘How about Cutie?’ Rudy asked quietly.
‘Great!’ came the answer.
‘Cutie’, Rudy repeated in his mind.
‘Exactly,’ said the voice of the old man in Rudy’s mind. ‘Right little toe: Cutie.’
Rudy became very sad. ‘But I don’t feel it at all anymore!’
‘That’s exactly why,’ the old man said in Rudy’s mind, ‘you should give it a name. That is how you bring the forgotten back to you. By giving them names. Nice names.’
‘And then?’ Rudy asked.
‘Then you repeat this name over and over, whenever you remember and as soon as you remember. And when you think about your disability and realize that you’re getting sad, then react immediately—say Cutie and think about your right little toe. Over and over, okay? You’ll be amazed! Maybe it won’t take long before you feel that little hoodlum-toe again. It depends on you too!’
Since the accident Rudy could only lie or sit, and he often became sad because of his disability. So he had lots of opportunities in the days that followed to try what the old man had suggested. He actually didn’t want to be sad, and he wanted to be healthy again, regardless of what the doctors or anyone had told him. So he called his right little toe Cutie again and again, and he felt the calming effect of that nice name. It seemed to him as if his right little toe was somewhat more alive again, and warmer, although he did not feel any movement in it.
That happened just a few days later. Rudy was sitting in the bathtub and was humming along to a catchy little song playing on the radio. His gaze fell on his right little toe under the water’s surface and suddenly it twitched.
‘Wow, Cutie!’ Rudy yelled out, ‘That’s amazing! Mom, come quick!’
Rudy’s mom could hardly believe it. She had often been unhappy because of the terrible prognosis from Rudy’s doctors, and she accused herself often for having done something wrong.
‘That’s so great!’ she said with a radiant smile.
‘You see?’ Rudy said, ‘And you thought I was crazy to call it Cutie.’
‘No,’ his mother said, ‘because you have been talking so much about that strange voice you heard.’
‘Oh, Mom, you often hear strange voices in your mind, don’t you? All your fears and worries because of me!’
Rudy’s mom quickly changed the subject. ‘Well, if your right little toe is called Cutie, what’s the name of your fourth right toe then?’
‘Wow, what a good question,’ Rudy answered, and thought about it for a moment. Then it burst out him: ‘Frederick! That’s it, Frederick!’
‘There’s a lot going on in your bathtub today,’ his mother said, and laughed.
And so it happened that as time passed, Cutie and Frederick began to wake up again, and stirred more frequently. What’s more, the other toes gradually joined in too.
Next in line was Rudy’s right big toe, who was named Tom.
The middle toe, then, was called Claire.
And finally his second right toe. His name was Little Paul. This second toe was the hardest for him to feel. That was because whenever he thought of Little Paul it usually only stirred something in Tom or Claire.
Well, anyway, by playing with his toes so much movement had come back to Rudy’s feet again! It didn’t take long before he could cut back on his pain killers, and then he even stopped taking them altogether!
His doctor was really excited. He said that he had never expected such improvements. Even Rudy’s legs had developed stronger muscles again. With things going so well, Rudy would not have to settle for spending the rest of his life in a wheelchair. The doctor even prescribed instructions for Rudy to learn to walk again.
In the meantime, Rudy had given his left toes the same names as his right ones. To be able to distinguish them from each other he had given his right toes the number one and his left ones the number two.
So Cutie Number 1 was his right little toe, Cutie Number 2 was his left little toe, and so on.
Rudy was very happy with his progress and time after time he drew pictures in his mind about how he would receive a great prize for his healing and his insights, and what great a speech he would hold.
‘Can you still remember what happened back then when your nervous disease started, the one you call an accident?’ the old man’s voice asked Rudy suddenly.
Rudy was just sitting on a stool in front of the bathroom-sink, brushing his teeth.
‘Let’s get to the bottom of things’, the voice continued.
‘But why?’ Rudy asked, ‘Everything is getting so much better already anyway.’
‘Because it is not only about loving your toes’, the old man’s voice said in a serious tone.
Rudy reflected. ‘Well, there was this stupid situation with Lucy,’ came to his mind, ‘and with this idiot, Charlie, who kept teasing me because of her.’
‘And how did you feel then, Rudy? What were you thinking about back then?’
‘He kept telling me over and over that Lucy would never be interested in me, that I was too small and too fat, that asshole!’
The voice of the old man repeated the question again: ‘What did you think then?’
‘I was totally pissed off,’ Rudy said, ‘I really wished him hell!’ Then he paused, and some tears came rolling down his cheeks. ‘That was so mean! That stupid asshole, that moron!’
‘Exactly’, said the old man in Rudy’s mind.
‘Did you ever forgive him, at any time during the two years that you’ve been ill?’ the old man’s voice continued in Rudy’s mind.
‘How’s that supposed to work?’ Rudy asked. ‘Am I supposed to just go up to him and say, “I forgive you for that”?’
‘No,’ he clearly heard, ‘you don’t have to say anything to Charlie. It would even be better that way, but you could also see that he’s as much a victim of circumstances as you are. Do you think he would have treated you so badly if he hadn’t been treated badly by his father?’
‘That’s true,’ Rudy thought. He had even once seen Charlie’s father yelling at him in front of the school.
‘And he passed that onto you,’ the old man said, ‘He passed his hurt, his resentment, on to you because he didn’t forgive himself.’ For a long time it was very quiet in the bathroom, and Rudy sat on his stool thoughtfully.
‘Remember what I told you during our first meeting in front of the mall, Rudy?’ the old man eventually continued, ‘“Bring love into your world and you will find the Great First Love.” Back when your classmates visited you the first time, you didn’t even look Charlie in the eyes.’
‘That was the only time he was there, anyway,’ Rudy protested, ‘He never showed up again after that!’
‘Would you visit somebody again who rejected you? So instead of forgiving Charlie—mind you, only in your own thoughts—you have cherished and nourished your anger this whole time over. And you don’t think something like that makes sick?’
‘I can be angry for as long as I want to,’ said Rudy, furiously.
‘Correct,’ the old man’s voice continued, ‘Absolutely right. You can be angry until you turn blue in the face. You can be upset until your anger takes you to the grave. And then the whole circus starts up all over again from the beginning. Because you didn’t get it. Because you still believe in being a victim of circumstances.’
‘A victim of circumstances! A victim of circumstances! What does that mean anyway?’ snapped Rudy, ‘I’m only thirteen!’
Now it seemed to him as if the voice was laughing brightly, like a girl, then it became serious again, and said, ‘A circumstance is, for example, when someone annoys you. And a victim is someone who can’t do anything about it except annoy themselves in return, or be afraid. And someone who forgives is someone who knows they’re never the victim of circumstances, and that they always have a choice. In the sense that they say, “Okay, that was stupid of that guy, but I’m not interested in being upset about him. I want to love him anyway, and therefore Water under the bridge!” That’s how simple forgiveness is. Maybe that’s why so few practice it. But forgiveness reaches a lot deeper still. It helps you get to where you really are.’
‘Huh?’ said Rudy.
‘The best way to imagine it is like this, Rudy,’ the old man’s voice said, ‘When something happens to you that upsets you, just say: Water under the bridge! Don’t even start hanging on to your thoughts about it. You just keep your grievance alive by doing that. Just say: Water under the bridge! This is what is meant by forgiveness. Because when you think or say Water under the bridge! you’re literally wiping your mind clean of emotions and anger and fears.’
‘And this is supposed to work?’ Rudy asked incredulously.
‘It’s just a matter of how serious you are about it. If you say Water under the bridge! with determination, then it works. If you say it half-heartedly, then it will only work partially. It’s up to you and your determination. After all, your mind is your mind. No one else has a say in your mind, only you. If you allow grievances and anger and fears to settle in, then you will experience agitation and anger and fear. If you say, “I want to experience love and joy and freedom, so Water under the bridge! to bad experiences and bad feelings!”, then you make way for all the good that the universe holds in store for you!’
‘It’s really that simple! That’s why so few are doing it, because it seems too simplistic to them. Few imagine what a huge responsibility they have as to whether or not their lives move gently, whether they really enjoy life or not! ’
‘But in regards to your question: saying Water under the bridge! will give you much more than a pleasant life. It helps you, as I said, to get to where you really are. And where are you really?’
‘Huh?’ exclaimed Rudy one more time, ‘Well, here in the bathroom, where else?’
‘And so? Are you really utterly happy and pleased here in this bathroom?’
‘Well,’ said Rudy, ‘so-so.’
‘So, no,’ said the old man’s voice in Rudy’s mind. ‘And would you like to be where you are totally happy and pleased?’
‘Of course,’ Rudy promptly replied.
’So,’ the old man said, ‘this place, if you’d like to call it a place, is nowhere else but right within yourself. Within your mind. After all it’s your mind that is your center. Or do you believe your body is your center? Never, ever! And one usually only recognizes this after bringing love into one’s world. Into the entirety of one’s world. And this works easiest by saying Water under the bridge! to all the negativity one recognizes within one’s mind. ’
’I’ll share a phrase with you now. Remember it, think of it often, and write it down. It will bring you home, sooner or later:
What I really am can be found
nowhere in greater abundance and joy
than precisely wherever I am
right in this very moment.’
‘So, how are your toes doing?’ the old man’s voice asked Rudy, after he had scribbled this mysterious phrase down on a piece of paper on his desk in his room.
That’s when Rudy suddenly realized that his toes had been moving as though they were tapping along to some music ever since he had first heard the old man’s voice inside. In the beginning, when only a little sensation had returned to his toes, it had been very subtle, but the more and the longer he had thought about their new names, and the more they had woken up, and the more he had had contact with the old man in his mind, the clearer that dancing had become. How come he hadn’t realized it earlier?!
‘Yes, um, I’m just realizing,’ Rudy stuttered, ‘that my toes, somehow they started dancing!’
‘As if they were singing along to a beautiful, joyful song?’
‘Yeah, that’s exactly it!’
Eighteen years had passed. Rudy was sitting one day in his favorite café for lunch, and was about to get up to pay and rush back to his office again. There was still so much to do today. Now that his agency was finally getting going, there was more work than ever. The old, slightly yellowish, worn piece of paper that he always carried with him in his wallet slipped into his fingers again. While he reached for his cane, he read thoughtfully again what was written there:
What I really am can be found
nowhere in greater abundance and joy
than precisely wherever I am
right in this very moment.
‘My gosh,’ thought Rudy, ‘that was so long ago. And I still don’t understand it yet.’ He hadn’t thought about his toes for such a long time. Perhaps that was the reason why his health situation hadn’t improved from a certain point onwards. Perhaps that was the reason why he had needed a cane to walk with for almost twenty years.
‘That might be the reason,’ the old white-haired man said, standing before his table, beaming at him. Rudy almost fell off his chair. It was the same old man from back when he was a little boy! For years he hadn’t heard his voice anymore from within, let alone seen him! The old man didn’t look a bit older. Yet this time he was dressed utterly nobly in a sand-colored suit, and peeking out from under a dark blue silk scarf in the middle of his chest on a fine gold chain was a small, apparently very old golden watch, with a clockwork wheel and a numberless clock face. But with no clock hands…
Fascinated, Rudy stared at the impressive appearance of the old man. Years ago, back in front of the mall, he had been dressed very ordinarily. Now he appeared like a king.
‘You should change that,’ the old man said. ‘Or better, you could change that, Rudy.’ Rudy couldn’t speak a word. He realized that the numerous other guests at the café weren’t seeming to take any notice of the impressive old man.
‘Change what?’ he stammered, confused.
‘You need to take more time for yourself. For your healing. Or do you want to hobble on a stick for the rest of your life? Take a vacation. Two weeks. Take two weeks of vacation and concentrate again on what is really important. Lucy can keep your business running just fine.’
‘But she needs so much time for our little Paul. I don’t want to burden her with that,’ Rudy replied after a pause for reflection.
‘Lucy can do it just fine,’ the old man said, and added with a twinkle, ‘don’t forget, she is a woman. And it does your son good to know that his father is doing something reasonable too, not just working on his career.’ With that, the old man pushed across the table a postcard that pictured a hut at the edge of a little mountain lake in the bright shining sun, address included.
It had been raining for days, actually since the moment Rudy had arrived at the little wooden hut in the mountains. Through the window he saw rain pelting down on the mountain lake. It was grey, gloomy and not at all hospitable. Rudy rinsed his breakfast dishes in a small, rusty basin in cold water. There was no warm water available, which in itself brought him close to tears again. How lonely he felt in this melancholic mountain hut! What a crazy idea to come to the middle of nowhere for two weeks! At home he had a family and work and friends. And here? So what if he simply spent the rest of his life walking on a cane?
What he was missing the most, however, was the inner voice of the old man. He didn’t hear anything inside himself except his own agonizing thoughts. He had often asked inwardly, ‘Where are you? Where are you then?’ The only answer he had heard again and again was, ‘I am present. I am with you.’ But these few words hadn’t changed one bit his miserable feeling of being abandoned by God and the entire world up there.
‘How about getting in touch with your toes?’ was suddenly present clearly and brightly inside him.
‘Why the hell should I be interested in my toes?’ Rudy blurted out. He wanted to be in his familiar environment again! With the people he loved!
‘That will come,’ was thought inside him again. ‘You are never alone. Are you listening? Never!’ That was the voice of the old man!
‘What does that mean, “I am never alone”? Not a soul is here!’
‘No other human body is here,’ the voice corrected him. ‘You have no idea how much soul is present! Now get in touch with your toes.’ The voice sounded so determined that Rudy immediately did as he was told.
Already two hours later he was feeling much better. He thought again and again about Cutie, his little toe, about Frederick, his fourth toe, about Claire, his middle toe, about Little Paul, his second toe, who was still a bit reluctant, and about Tom, his big toe. On his right foot, as well as his left. With Little Paul, his second toe, his little son came to his mind, and his darling, cheeky laughter. Actually, it was because of this second toe’s name that Rudy and Lucy had called their son Paul…
More and more distinctly his toes had moved during his practise and had played and tinkled with one another, as if they were instruments that had had to wait a long time to be used. Eventually Rudy noticed that his whole body had become more agile through his toes’ play. During the previous lonely days his body had literally rusted. Now it began to stretch and expand delightfully! Rudy filled his body with a yawn as loud and unrestrained as a hippo’s!
During a later limping-along walk in the rain, Rudy inhaled the clear, drizzly mountain air deeply, and without warning an unexpected sense of happiness shot right up through him. Where did that come from? The weather was still lousy, there still wasn’t a soul in sight, he was still alone, but somehow he felt clearly: he wasn’t alone! ‘That’s crazy,’ thought Rudy.
For some reason, from somewhere, Charlie came into his mind. ‘He’s probably trying to hit on Lucy again, now that I’m away,’ he thought.
‘They are completely free people, Lucy and Charlie,’ he heard the old man’s voice inside. ‘What concern is it of yours? Let them be.’ Rudy stumbled and barely caught hold of a tree trunk. ‘Now, roll from heel to toes as you walk on!’ The voice suddenly didn’t sound at all friendly anymore, but rather extremely strict. Rudy took fright and spun around, as if someone was after him.
‘But Charlie should leave Lucy alone!’
‘Negative. You are to leave Charlie and Lucy alone. Do you really believe that just because you’ve married Lucy she’s not free any more? Lucy isn’t some sort of booty you’ve captured!’
‘If only my cell phone would work,’ said Rudy, ‘then I could call her.’
‘It wasn’t for no reason that it quit working when you got here,’ the old man replied. ‘Now roll from heel to toe.’ Scowling, Rudy marched on through the rain back to the hut. ‘Roll over,’ the voice of the old man repeated. ‘Feet are not stumps, you hear? Feet are like magic wheels that roll your body through life. And wheels roll.’
‘Ok, boss!’ Rudy snapped, and told his feet, ‘Roll over!’
‘Exactly,’ said the voice of the old man in Rudy’s mind. ‘Always touch down with the heel first. And then roll the foot over the outer edge, then the ball of the foot and the toes roll forward. And don’t keep propping yourself on your cane first, otherwise you’ll forget to use your feet. Are you listening? First roll your feet and then use your cane for help, but only if it is necessary.’ Rudy complied. ‘Yes, exactly, now we’re getting there, bit by bit,’ the voice resounded with a chuckle. ‘And don’t forget your pelvis! It has to be swinging along like a ship on your magic feet-wheels!’
Rudy made a serious effort to bring all of this together. ‘And stop forgetting your spine! It has to be swinging on your pelvis-ship as well! And loosen your shoulders! Relax your neck!’ Rain and sweat started mixing on Rudy’s forehead. He stood still and took a deep breath. ‘Your head always has to move along, Rudy. Don’t forget it. It’s like the crow’s nest lookout set on top of the mast of your spine, so to speak. And it sways along, of course! Alright, keep going! You’ve rested long enough.’
‘Take it easy!’ Rudy hollered out into the rain and hobbled onwards.
Five more days passed and Rudy made distinct progress with his walking. As much as the old man’s voice annoyed him at times, he made a sincere effort to comply with it. What else was there to do in this gloomy solitude anyway? It didn’t stop raining and he still didn’t have any cell phone reception. And still no one around. Just a falcon could he see at times in nearby trees or at the edge of the little mountain lake.
Rudy had just returned from a walk, and he let himself fall wearily on a wooden chair. On the sisal rug in front of the camp cot crept a thin earthworm. ‘Boy, will I be happy to return home,’ he thought. He carefully picked up the earthworm with his fingers and threw him out the door.
His glance went out the window to the wobbly handrail which surrounded the hut. He heard a nearby vigorous beating of wings. All at once the falcon landed directly on the handrail in front of his window, peering inside with a fierce look. When he noticed Rudy, the falcon pecked sharply with his beak to the right, then to the left, then to the front, flapped his wings powerfully a few times, and abruptly burst out with a glaring cry that froze Rudy’s blood. He screeched directly at Rudy, then pushed elegantly away from the railing with his claws and disappeared into the grey, rainy sky. Rudy’s hair stood on end. The scream of the falcon had pierced his bone marrow. All weariness was as if blasted away. With a beating heart he fell onto the cot and stared up at the wooden beams.
‘And? What did it say, your bird?’ rose inside him.
‘“Wake up, Rudy”,’ Rudy stammered. ‘“Wake up, Rudy,” it shrieked,’ said Rudy silently, and closed his eyes.
‘Breathe,’ said the old man’s voice inside him. ‘Breathe calmly. Breathe slowly. Calm down. Come home.’
Rudy had fallen asleep.
When he woke up, his whole body was glowing. He opened his eyes. ‘Water,’ he thought. He got undressed, ran naked to the little mountain lake and jumped straight into the icy water. When he had swum just a few strokes he realized that he had run to the lake without a crutch! Shivering with cold, Rudy, like a hobbling duck, stumbled back to the hut. He dried himself quickly and thoroughly, and began to dress himself. Finally, he sat on the wooden chair and dried his feet, every toe separately. While doing so, he spoke every single toe name lovingly: Cutie, Frederick, Claire, Little Paul, Tom. Left foot, right foot.
Suddenly it seemed to him as if he heard his toes singing! What now?
‘Just listen,’ the old man’s voice said in his mind. And Rudy clearly heard a gospel song, a joyful, infectious melody, to which his toes sang!
‘We love to live, yippie-dee, yippie-doo,
Love to walk, yippie-dee, yippie-doo!
Together we are a beautiful star!
Yippie-dee, yippie-doo, yippie-doo-be-doo!
Yeah, yeah, yeah!
We love to live, yippie-dee, yippie-doo,
Love to walk, yippie-dee, yippie-doo!
Together we are a beautiful star!
Yippie-dee, yippie-doo, yippie-doo-be-doo!’
‘They will lock me up in a nut house,’ Rudy thought, grooving along without a care.
‘Ok, my friends,’ he finally said to his toes. ‘Let’s go for a walk on the wild side!’ With that, Rudy boogied with loose steps out the door.
‘What on earth is this?’ slipped out of his mouth as he raised his eyes. It had stopped raining!
‘Very well,’ Rudy said to himself. ‘We won’t let that spoil our mood, right, my friends?’
‘Never, ever, honey! Never, ever! Oh yeah, sweeheheet hohohoney, nehever, ehehever!’ his toes sang back, enjoying a proper kneading with every step.
The sun broke through the clouds more and more, and when Rudy sat down on the only bench around, near or far, it shone powerfully directly down on him.
‘Oh, my God,’ Rudy thought, ‘How beautiful this life is!’
For a while he sat still, with his eyes closed, and simply enjoyed to the fullest the bright warmth on his face and hands.
‘Do you remember the sentence on your piece of paper?’ the old man’s voice asked inside his mind. Rudy couldn’t think of the words. The paper was somewhere in the hut. ‘Then open your eyes now,’ the voice said.
‘Why?’ thought Rudy. He felt such a marvelous peace inside himself. Like warm, liquid gold. Only when a tear ran across his cheek did he open his eyes and wipe the tear away. Well, this was incredible!
Abruptly he realised he wasn’t separate from anything he could see! Such a thing as a Rudy-person did not exist at all in reality! Although of course it was him who experienced this miracle! Everything around him now sang, ‘Me!’ Everything was Me!
He was all of it! All of this was his world! His experience! These trees, this path, this little lake with the hut on the horizon. These couple of clouds that just dissolved in the sky, this sun, the little bug that crawled across his hand!
Rudy’s mouth hung open. His chest glowed. ‘What a peace,’ he thought.
‘Yes, living peace,’ the voice of the wise old man said, as he appeared from out of nowhere, standing before his bench, smiling at him. ‘You will never forget this, Rudy.’ With that he turned away and began walking down the mountain path.
‘Will we meet again?’ Rudy called after him.
The old man stopped and called back without turning around, ‘It’s not necessary, Rudy! Now you are me!’ These words echoed in Rudy like the beat of a drum. He didn’t understand a word and yet he understood every word!
‘Now I am you,’ he muttered. ‘Yes, exactly!’
Then the old man turned towards him and shouted laughingly, ‘Your cell phone is working again. Why don’t you call Lucy?’
And turning away and continuing on, his voice reverberated, ‘Oh! And don’t forget about Charlie! He’s been overseas for a long time. When he returns from his business trip, give him my best regards!’
Rudy’s toes tinkled boldly. Then there was silence and the incredible living peace again inside his mind…
Translation by Andreas Pröhl and Kushla Gale, © Christoph Engen, 2014
THE HEALING POWER OF
A COURSE IN MIRACLES
A student’s way from Depression and MS to Healing and Awakening
For the end of June 2010 Ian Patrick, the editor of Miracle Worker Magazine, and I had planned a talk plus seminar for me to give in London. My old pal Felix, who had already saved me from burning in the Dead Sea, accompanied me.
Exactly the day we left for the airport there was a sudden onslaught of intense summer heat. I hadn’t expected this at all and at that time was still pretty bad in tolerating hot weather. When we eventually arrived after not being allowed to leave the plane for hours on end due to heavy flight traffic at Heathrow I was knocked out completely. And it was hot! My head was buzzing like mad and my legs were pure pudding. Fortunately once again Felix took wonderful care of me, getting our bus-connections in London straight, carrying our entire luggage, partially with the help of a darling Indian airport-employee and running around like a marathon man. I kept wondering why the heck I had to do this all. This whole trip was on an entirely voluntary basis!
The night Felix and I spent in a rather small king-size bed that I had already been pretty critical about and I remember how suddenly his big arm landed trustfully on my chest as if he believed in his sleep I was his girlfriend. My eyes shot open wide, I turned away from him and the next moment with a boom I landed on the floor.
Fortunately the next morning my strength came somewhat back and since it was still rather fresh outside also my good spirits returned. This changed pretty fast though as it got hotter and hotter. In the evening I was supposed to give my first London-lecture at Ian’s “miracle café” in the first floor of Neal’s Yard Salad Bar.
Gosh, it was hot! Holding on to my two crutches I tottered to the venue and even though there were quite some people sitting outside in cafés I had to pull out my uribag to find relief for my nervous bladder squeezed into some narrow house-niche. What a drag! And the topic of my lecture was “Forgiveness: Key to Healing, Plenty and Happiness” …
When I had finally climbed up those few stairs to the first floor again my head was buzzing feverishly and I just felt like going to sleep. No way. Some thirty people were already streaming in and the place filled up quickly. Five minutes before the lecture started I decided to go to the tiny unisex-restroom and try to empty my bladder much as possible so it wouldn’t mess up the evening. As I stepped out of the restroom a young lady was coming in at the very same time. We greeted each other nicely and with my left hand still holding on to the doorframe for balance she closed the door shut. I screamed out like crazy. My fourth left finger hadn’t had the time to get out of the way. Of course the young lady opened the door practically the moment I yelled out loud and apologized deeply and I put on a forgiving, friendly face however I intensely felt my poor fourth finger pulsate in pain. The cold water from the tap I tried to cool it with was lukewarm and even without glasses I could see the fingernail turn red.
It really hurt! And there I was sitting surrounded by those dear London-Course folks and took another look at my pounding finger. The fingernail had turned purple meanwhile. I was sure this was going to last long. But somehow I must have dropped this thought and while Ian Patrick spoke his welcoming words all of a sudden the pain was gone. I couldn’t believe it. As I looked down at the finger there was just a small lightly reddish spot to be seen on the fingernail. And absolutely no pain!
At the end of my little talk a wonderful lady stepped to the center of our gathering, Merle Forbes, and sang a capella the spiritual „On my knees“. I was moved to tears. And I believe we all were.
Yes, all there really was for me to do was to surrender to the Divine …
THE POWER OF DECISION
“Every disease is a musical problem,
every healing a musical solution.”
Almost immediately after our return home I fell back into the mental state of a little overburdened and panicking child. Several difficult situations had come together in my life and I felt sheer panic as to how on earth I could ever handle all this. A state of massive depression followed and lasted for over two years.
Due to this depression almost immediately my health situation got worse. The neuropathies in my feet that I had gotten used to meanwhile began to spread all over my legs and all the way up to my bottom. My incontinence got so bad that I hardly dared leave my four walls. I was pursued by constipations and especially from late afternoon on my legs shook with spasms. To get rid of this horror and be able to think clearly again and happily would only work the six, seven times I succeeded to follow my inner guidance and stay up a whole night and the following day. However soon as I went to bed again I felt my old fear creeping in again and take over and the next morning my panic and disorientation was worse than ever before. Hadn’t it been for Evi who kept life running for the two of us over this entire period, I would have been lost. Whenever she left home in the morning to go to work and I heard the door shut behind her I felt like a prisoner in his dungeon.
So again I had gone to the desert. However this time it was the planet of desertedness in the universe of my mind.
The laughing apple
“I decided to be happy, because it’s better for health.”
What finally slingshot me out of this hell of depression once again was the insight that I myself was the one and only cause of all this horror. And I had had plenty enough of all of this panic and fear and these rotten MS-symptoms! It was one day before my 55th birthday.
A good 53, 54 years before as a baby I had been in a little crèche under my grandfather Paul’s beloved apple tree marvelling at the beauty all around me.
I had felt so relaxed and so very well protected by my grandparents’ and my parents’ love …
During this legendary day two very dear elderly friends of ours, Elisabeth and Manfred, had taken care of me during the day time since Evi had had to go to the hospital for a foot surgery. I had been very afraid of how on earth I would be able to deal with these three days with no skirt to hide behind. All day long Elisabeth had driven Manfredo and myself through the Bavarian countryside and I remember how moved I was to see there were still cows around and meadows and villages and beer gardens and normal people leading their normal lives. Over the two years of “imprisonment” within my four walls I had been sure I would never be able to get out again and lead this kind of a normal life and enjoy such wonderful little human delights as going to the country.
Back home alone this night and after finally ending an eight day antibiotic therapy due to a bladder infection my spastics too returned back to “normal”. The antibiotics had worsened these spastics tremendously from evening on all through the night, sparing me but one or two hours of sleep. So this night promised to be less crampy and shaky. Near midnight I watched a wonderful documentary on a tour by the musicians Konstantin Wecker and Hannes Wader und from deep within me I felt my WILL TO LIVE wake up again!
I was so fed up with these depressions, I was fed up with these pains, and I was fed up with this jerking of my legs! I was so completely fed up with this entire MS! Fed up, fed up, and fed up with all that!!!
And what I was fed up with most of all was this constant fear that had meanwhile spread over so many areas of my life like some exuberant cancer! Fear, fear, fear, wherever I looked in my life! Meanwhile I was afraid of everything. There was fear of walking anyway. Of course there also was fear of eating something wrong. There was fear of smoke, fear of alcohol, fear of white bread, fear of my hunching about on two canes, fear of peoples’ reaction who saw me that way, fear of falling down, fear of death, fear of life. Fear of everything!
And it was this very own fear of mine I had fostered and nourished and pampered for so very long that I rendered a definite, terminal kick in the butt that night! I wanted to be alive and happy again.
Next noon Evi returned from the hospital. It was my birthday and yes, I truly felt born again!
Eight weeks later I had recovered considerably from my MS symptoms and there were still three apples on the little apple tree of our small city-garden. The one laughing apple had already fallen to the ground and so had his follow-up apple with less distinct smiley markings. Over the weeks those laughing apples had continuously reminded me of God’s face that unflinchingly showered me with its smile and I am sure some of the apples in my grandfather’s garden had smiled at me just the same …
By the way: When I once again had a bladder infection three or four weeks later I reacted beautifully to the prescribed antibiotic.
How to free ourselves from suffering by decision
Since I know him I have been fascinated by my friend Michael Ostarek’s tinkling toes. Whenever Michael gives one of his talks on the Course, his toes are often moving about and tinkle and play with each other as though they were dancing to some inaudible music. How does he do that? From my perspective this is entirely a question of his spiritual alignment.
A Course in Miracles teaches very simply that we DECIDE – not only once a day for the rest of the day – but each and every MOMENT. What do we want to experience? In fact totally independent of how this moment appears to our perception, our senses, our body. No matter whether we are critically ill or fit as a fiddle, no matter whether we’re just exhaling our last breath or whether we are in the middle of experiencing birth of one of these fascinating lifetime dreams or whether exactly those are just breaking to pieces. How will this very moment be judged by our mind? Do we evaluate this present moment from the point of view of Love or from the point of view of fear? These are the two alternatives open to us. And for one of these we have to decide, if we don’t want to fall into confusion and depression.
This coherently means that depression, that confusion is a decision. We are just hiding the fact that we do DECIDE each and every instant most of the time very skilfully behind the fogs of what we call the subconscious. Then we say for instance, without being aware of this self-deception, “I really couldn’t help it.”
So what else is depression but a subtle camouflage of our truly free, all encompassing, Universal Spirit?
What we decide for in a depression is precisely to not decide at all and just suffer. Because we haven’t decided, we have very well decided thus leaving the steering wheel to our old, familiar reflexes, and the ship of our life now wallows guidelessly about in the ocean of life. We then believe we are at the mercy of this wallowing and talk about the power of tides or of weather or fate or the pharmaceutical industry or of evil powerful politicians, parents, teachers and so on.
By then we have definitely forgotten that it’s ourselves who MUST be steering our wheel when we want our lives to run well. To be able to jubilate “Oh happy day!” we have to decide so and decide so this very moment.
Or we decide for fear. This also is a decision! Not chance. And of course we will experience the effects of this through and through. Why? Because life follows our decision. At every moment. This consequently means:
At every moment we CAN undo a decision for fear, suffering and unhappiness and in turn decide for the good. At every moment we can decide to be happy. Independent of the apparent outer circumstances. Why is this so? Because we are independent, free children of the big living picture, free children of the Universe, free children of God, if you want to put it that way.
And the moment we make this decision, we already begin to hear the music of real life. We already begin to hear the voices and songs of truly living beings and spirits throughout all spaces and times: of Jesus, of Mary, of Einstein, of Feldenkrais, of Mozart, of the Beatles and so forth and so on.
And then of course our toes start to tinkle!
Because those highly musical informations make our entire body happy and just want to dance! And in case our body just has to sit straight or keep quiet, why then his toes start to dance. And everyone with eyes can see that and everybody can feel it and start to hum this glorious heavenly music along and be happy too.
Because this music is coming from truly living beings from the real world. And because the Holy Spirit who always sounds and speaks together along with our great ones IS pure music!
And soon as we hear this music of His automatically every moment turns into what it actually is:
A gift of immortal life to ourselves, to immortally living beings …
A HEALING POEM
This poem originated from an experience several months ago, when I took a rest on our terrace from intense business with various texts and an aching heart. I was afraid I might suffer a heart attack any moment. Through the experience, where this poem is coming from, my pain was gone within a short time and I could take some relaxed breaths again.
As I found out later, this poem has, the deeper you go into its thoughts, a healing capacity indeed. I have had the experience, that it can be applied helpfully to all sorts of restricting and frightening situations.
The hush of Mary cools my aching, burning heart,
her love comes streaming through my dark.
While Jesus’ hands relieve my shoulders from behind,
putting to ease my troubled, busy mind.
The while my legs and belly feel a Chinese master’s touch,
they never had relaxed that much …
And from above comes Heaven’s kiss,
oh what enormous, time- and space-less, happy bliss!
FROM THE SOUL’S SPARK TO THE GREAT DISCOVERY
There is nothing outside you. That is what you must ultimately learn, for it is the realization that the Kingdom of Heaven is restored to you.”
A Course in Miracles
Almost a year after I had finally kicked my disease-identification with depressions and MS out of my system by rigorously deciding I want to live and be happy and sane, which had triggered such a surprising recovery from all my symptoms that today for walking I just occasionally have to use a cane, or after, so to speak, the spark of my soul had definitely ignited, one afternoon I experienced on our little city-porch what all spiritual traditions refer to as awakening.
At that time I had often watched the YouTube videos of Mooji, a wisdom-teacher in the tradition of Ramana Maharshi and Papaji, correspondingly working with a central thought from “A Course in Miracles”, that we are not bodies.
With these thoughts I sat down in an armchair on our porch for a cigarette I had just rolled. I glanced at the big houses to the right, left and in front of our little garden leaving but two 30 degree angles for looking further and toward some high trees. Okay, then I’ll let go of this body-identification, I thought to myself.
My inner self-image appeared, the image I normally see when I look in a mirror. Okay, so I’ll let go of this self-image, I kept thinking. Very gently and easily it went “puff” and I had totally left my entire Christoph-identification. No more thought of a Christoph-person separate from whatever. No more thought of a Christoph-body.
Instead of that an experience of home like never before. I immediately knew, I am all that: this garden, these houses, these windows, this sky. No more Christoph far and wide. From everything my look fell upon it said: “I!”
This was the essence of all love, the essence of all freedom and joy, the essence of all peace. It was so spectacular and yet so simple and gentle.
The brief memory of my body came back and I felt my chest glowing. The feeling of not being separate from anything however remained. Same as the knowledge that I had definitively left my body and achieved the goal of all human striving, the great, eternal “I”. No, not “I” had achieved this, that’s not correct. By giving up my “I” or by my “I” giving up itself, automatically the great, divine “I” had become the experience of everything.
In this experience no memory of my body or my person remained. Neither the least yearning for that. For what I experienced or rather, what experienced itself, was the deepest fulfillment of all that could ever be yearned for. On the one hand it happened completely beyond body-perception and yet simultaneously it included everything physical the look fell upon: houses, plants, windows, sky, trees, fronts. Everything sang: “I”, “I”, “I”, “I”.
That love is self-evident, that peace is self-evident, that freedom is self-evident, that God is self-evident, that I am self-evident, was completely beyond questioning.
And that in truth there always is only this “One”, that everything else is nothing but dreams, all way too weak to describe this “One”, to reach this “One”, to experience this “One” …
A thought appeared: “I should take another puff from my cigarette,” followed immediately by: “Not now”. I didn’t listen to this voice and took another puff.
And, puff, I was pulled back into my body sitting in an armchair on the porch …
Since then I know I indeed need do nothing else but, whenever I want to, go into this experience … Since then I feel how this experience extends by itself into my entire world and brings healing. According to rules I – thank God – do not have to understand!
My soul’s spark that had unequivocally ignited one year ago, which had made it so easy for me to follow my inner routes and inspirations – what before had only been possible with biggest effort and discipline – had unveiled its deepest core at last.
And, marvel of marvels: this soul’s spark is in everybody and everything! Always but accessible and free to be experienced by every man, every woman, every child, every animal, every being!
“Heaven is not a place nor a condition. It is merely an awareness of perfect Oneness, and the knowledge that there is nothing else; nothing outside this Oneness, and nothing else within.”
A Course in Miracles
THE BEST EXERCISE
“WHEN I AM HEALED I AM NOT HEALED ALONE. And I would bless my brothers, for I would Be healed with them as they are healed with me.”
A Course in Miracles
This is, I am sure, the most helpful thought concerning all kinds of diseases. It took me a very long time to understand how necessary it is, to stop concentrating on my own important disease and strive for its healing, but instead concentrate on the healing of others. Here is what Michael Ostarek wrote me just recently in an email on this subject:
THE TRICK TO BE SICK
… Being sick means above all: I am the one who is sick, so my needs are most important! And this is totally logical for the sick.
The healing process requires a different look at this issue:I will find my needs in someone whom I perceive as being different from me. And I will ask for help in order to help him. So I can love my brother as myself.
What’s that for?
Now the Holy Spirit can enter a relationship, because there is a temple for Him. And you can give your brother what you will receive for both of you.
This love will heal, because two cannot be sick.
Blessings all the way home
P. S. It’s not the words but it’s the experience.
This is where the Course generates all its healing power from! Up to now I’ve been mainly concerned with my own getting better again and although I shared my recovery-experience with as many people in need as possible, still my walking ability hadn’t gotten completely back to normal again.
Now since receiving this message from Michael and since I concentrate much more on other peoples’ recovery in my thoughts and silent good wishes I clearly can sense yet another big step in my own physical recovery. It appears this has been exactly the last missing link.
Michael himself had not been so well, when he started helping me. After two heart-attacks he had developed a painful form of neuroborreliosis. He had told me about it, however I can’t remember seeing him complain and beside he would usually jump around like a youngster. Obviously I had been one of his “guinea pigs” as to practicing his belief in other peoples’ wholeness and health no matter how sick they appeared and in silently wishing them well.
© Christoph Engen, February 2014
English videos for recovery via:
MS-TV MÜNCHEN Christoph Engen (on YouTube)
Older German version of this text via:
Desert Miracle in Part 1 translated by Katrin Potticary and Barbara Fairlight
Translation assistance for the other chapters by Andreas Pröhl
THE HEALING POWER OF
A COURSE IN MIRACLES
A student’s way from Depression and MS to Healing and Awakening
As I see it, the healing power of A Course in Miracles mostly stems from the fact that it helps us overcome our own little personal self for the sake of a greater good and for the sake of others. When we start concentrating silently on other peoples’ wholeness and health and divinity independent of the way they appear this automatically will not only bring them a whiff at least of their immortal inheritance but it also brings forward our own innate perfection. Eventually, and if we really will, this is also being expressed through our own healing example.
This is so because in truth we are not one versus another, but One. We are not bound to the ties of any space-time-frame. We are not restricted to our bodies. We are so much more!
© Christoph Engen, February 2014
THE INNER VOICE
When suddenly the title for this text came to my mind two tremendously big white birds came flying at me from the horizon with the second one passing directly above my head, as I sat there on our little city-porch. They looked sort of like seagulls; however they were at least as big as geese, though with this entirely different elegant seagull-form. I had never seen any birds like that here in southern Germany.
What is perhaps most astounding about A Course in Miracles is that it brings us back to clearly hearing our very own Inner Voice. Not the voice of our separated, little personal self, but the Voice of our Inner Teacher, the Voice of the Holy Spirit or say Universal Intelligence, the Voice of our Innermost Soul.
At the beginning this usually is experienced as something threatening because generally our true Inner Voice tells us to do things we are afraid of or at least do not want and to look at life from an entirely unfamiliar angle. This is normal for our Inner Voice wants to help us get things straightened out and strangely enough we are so used to our upside down, screwed up thinking that, even though we are not really happy, we don’t want to change either.
However eventually after taking the first few timid steps our trust in this good Inner Voice grows and we begin to become familiar with it and even joyfully seek its presence. This is so because we come to realize that the goal of our Inner Voice is nothing but what we are deeply searching for ourselves: Peace of mind, happiness, freedom, inner strength. And of course: Unconditional Love.
The successive healing of our bodies’ ailments and handicaps is interwoven with our commitment to follow what this Inner Voice of Love recommends us to do: Look entirely new and with loving freshness at ourselves, people near us and our whole world. A Course in Miracles is one of the clearest paths available that can train us in this respect.
A SONG FROM THE SHORES OF THE TRULY LIVING
“When we have finally learned: There is but this INSTANT …”
Every bit of us wants to be living. Every cell of our bodies wants to be alive.
Every cramped finger or toe wants to beam with the golden light of thankfulness, yearns to move with the stream of divine Life.
Every deaf ear wants to open back up to the songs of the living.
Every lame eyeball wants to roll round and round seeing but golden light everywhere.
This is a song from the shores of the living.
They truly live, because they have left death where it belongs: behind.
The truly living …
They come from all cultures. Throughout all times. They come from big cities, from little desert villages, from small and big islands, from any shore.
What unites them is their belief in the good, their unwavering, indomitable Spirit.
They are the tough ones and the loving ones and the helpful ones …
Some never believed in the pictures of death, sickness and scarcity from the start.
That’s why they might never have come to planet earth with its topics of limitation at all …
They simply prefer to swim in the ocean of love …
Others like us decided to taste from the honey of space, time and smallness. And here we are. So what now?
Once we‘ve lost ourselves, we’ll have to find ourselves. Eventually. That’s every soul’s, every spirit’s goal.
Then, normally after a good deal of learning, lots of catastrophes and tears, finally one day we find what is called a LIVING TEACHER: And if we stay willing, He or She will guide us HOME. Back to the waters of life. Back to the shores of the truly LIVING …
A COURSE IN MIRACLES is one of these Living Teachers. They are here to guide us home, if we so wish …
Then one day when we really have gone through the curriculum they set forth, we ARRIVE!
Once there, we have opened our eyes again and finally begin to see the wonders of LIFE . . .
Having lost our limitations, we start recognizing each other. We become keenly aware of who is a truly Living One – be it man, woman or animal – and who is still holding on to their shrouds. And perhaps we’ll be able to help – and be it just with a smile.
From now on we could shut the COURSE. No need for walking a path anymore. We’ll only turn back to our path for the joy of finding ever more insights and pearls.
From now on most every moment is experienced as what it is:
A GIFT FROM FOREVER.
All guilt is practically gone and any fear thought that might still arise in our minds will quickly be recognized as what it is and dropped by the power of our SPIRIT. We finally know when it’s necessary to say: NO! Because now we are driven by the divine power of: YES! …
And from now on we’ll just ENJOY being Living Ones too. And to share this one and only true experience with others. Be they near us in bodies … or not.
And we’ll enjoy talking with birds for instance and listening to the news they bring …
There also are some who swim so long and insatiably in this golden, silvery ocean of love stretching in front of their coasts that out of joy they never return. Their welcoming calls however can be heard throughout eternity.
“You might have achieved a lot here or nothing at all.
That doesn’t change one iota of your immeasurable worth.”
To travel to the desert was certainly the last thing I ever would have wished for. It appeared to me as if all the small and great fears of my life had been lashed and tangled into an almost unbearably painful knot of desperate defense. I didn’t want to be in the desert! My whole life already seemed like a sheer desert of the soul. There was no need to haul my MS-diseased body into the real desert.
Some friends of mine who are students of A Course in Miracles had planned a retreat in the Sinai Desert and suggested it might do me good to participate. That idea felt like an utter threat to me. My mind ran amok. The worst thing was that I couldn’t see any alternative whatsoever. At most there was the option of taking my own life. Yet even that I couldn’t do, although my thoughts were obsessing on all kinds of possible suicide variations. It was the fear of even more pain that made me back off at the last second—pain for myself and the few others who were still close to me.
In the final weeks before my departure, I felt as if I were being led to an execution. If only some truck or bus would run over me before I set out on my journey, or if at least the plane would crash so I wouldn’t have to ever set a foot in that desert!
I was equally as vehement in resisting the desert as in resisting the notion that I was completely responsible for my condition, independent of so called external circumstances.
“What we’re up to today is to actually meet God,” Michael had just said to all of us in the tent. There were about twenty of us participating in a silent retreat centred on A Course in Miracles.
Meanwhile I stood leaning against my rock in the shade and looked at the desert valley in front of me. It was my fifth day of fasting and my seventh day in this isolated desert valley surrounded by rocks, somewhere in the Sinai.
I felt so weak I could hardly remain upright on my legs and my crutches. Due to multiple sclerosis I had gotten used to such standing and walking problems over several years. But this state of extreme physical weakness was certainly also caused by the exceptional desert heat plus the fasting.
A voice speaks within me:
“Look into your mind. Look how you create your very own experience: through your thinking. Give all these thoughts to God. Imagine radiant hands reaching down to you from above. Place all your thoughts into them. All your feelings. All your wishes. All your worries. Then see how you are creating the entire world. Literally the entire world of opposites. It appears as a never-ending cycle, creating itself anew from moment to moment. Each thought immediately brings about its opposite. Each birth leads immediately to death. But that is not your experience. Your mind creates a chewing gum to glue together both ends—birth and death—which then allows you to stretch them apart. This sticky stuff is what you call life, but your real life is so much more—so radiant, so powerful and at the same time inconceivably peaceful, joyful and serene … Go there for a moment …”
I kept my eyes closed and saw how my thoughts, wave-like, created themselves endlessly against an unfathomably dark background.
And then Bhakti and Michael, the two facilitators of the retreat, appeared. They were in my mind. With their help the waves of thought came to a halt.
A dream flashed through my mind—one I had when I was twenty, shortly before I flew to Auroville, India.
In the dream I found myself on a long bridge with no visible end. The bridge was stretched over impenetrable darkness. People in a state of panic were huddled in front of me. It was a bottomless dark abyss beneath them that caused so much fear. I walked over to the handrail and experienced the same panic. I suddenly knew that I was supposed to jump off the bridge into this darkness. My fingers clutched the handrail. It was obvious to me that I could never do this alone. All of a sudden there was a being behind me to the right, then another one behind me on the left. I couldn’t turn my head, but at my back I clearly felt two light presences. They emanated such serenity that all the fear went away. Then the being on the left started spinning. It passed me, spun over the handrail and into the abyss, immediately followed by the second being on the right. And right there I let go and got sucked down with them. Those two literally exploded into light. It touched me and, puff, I turned into light myself. My eyes shot open and I found myself in my little student’s den. Yet now I was looking down from the ceiling. This was such a shock that immediately I spun back into my body in bed.
The two beings in my dream merged with Bhakti and Michael. They were identical.
In a phone conversation that we had weeks later, Michael confirmed that he and Bhakti are mainly operating on the level of the mind to extend forgiveness to literally everything and to help their brothers and sisters into the light.
I felt as if they were silently holding my hands.
A wave of gratitude flooded through me and an incomparable golden light of peace emerged.
In this light, any wish anyone could ever have was fulfilled a thousand times over.
“And this incomparable golden light of peace emerged. In this light, any wish anyone could ever have is fulfilled a thousand times over.”
Everything is healed in this moment, on all levels. The realization occurs that suffering and sickness and death as much as birth and wellness and physical life are nothing but ideas in our one eternally alive, deeply happy, radiant Spirit. And this is the experience. This is God.
“And you are the one who allows the dream to continue. You are always free to stay completely in the light of peace, in which all conceivable wishes have already been fulfilled a million, billion, trillion times over. Or you can choose to go on dreaming. Realize that it is up to you. Either way, it’s OK.”
It was about the same time of day two days earlier when I had leaned against my “rock of forgiveness” with stiff, rigid legs and a buzzing head. Two meters away from my feet was my sleeping site—suitcase, bag, mat and sleeping bag. I had stood there for quite some time when I decided to get something out of my suitcase. I had to get going before the sun came around the hill at my back and while there was still a bit of shade. Afterwards I had planned on hobbling to the group tent, which was about 40 meters away. In there I could face the boiling heat of the noon. In order to open the suitcase I had to kneel down on the sleeping bag. I sat there for a while resting on my heels and rummaging through my suitcase. I could feel the sun slowly rising up on my back and getting hotter and hotter. I mumbled into my six-day-old beard, “I’ve really got to get going” and tried to get up. I couldn’t move. Sitting in this crouching position had almost numbed my legs. My head, wrapped in a light blue Bedouin’s cloth, was so exposed to the burning sun that I almost fainted. I had been told to simply call out or whistle if I needed help, and one of the other members of the group would hear me. They were usually close by behind their own rock. But this time, nobody showed up, not even after I screamed loudly and whistled the SOS signal three times quite piercingly.
Suddenly I heard Bhakti’s voice in my mind: “Get on your knees”. “On my knees?” I thought, “I am not going to crawl through the sand to the tent. My pants will get even dirtier.” I tried to get to my feet again. At the last moment I lost my strength and dropped back onto the sleeping bag. Again I heard Bhakti’s voice clearly: “Get on your knees”. And again I insisted on keeping my pants somewhat clean. Once more I tried to get up, only to collapse again. I repeated this a third time. And again I heard Bhakti’s voice: “Get on your knees.” The heat was almost unbearable and I felt so weak. Something within me remembered how I could get on my knees anyway. Instead of prying myself up with great effort, I could get there by simply tilting my pelvis. It didn’t take much and I was sort of standing on my knees. In this position I hobbled towards the tent for three or four steps and back again. I finally maneuvered myself into an upright position by leaning on the suitcase. Fevered and very shaky, I headed towards the tent. I just made it in time to sink onto one of the mattresses. I was too exhausted to adjust my warped position and was simply relieved to have made it to the shade. My Bedouin’s shawl covered my whole face, yet countless flies found uncovered skin to tickle and swarm about on. They couldn’t disturb me anymore.
My mother Erika appeared in my mind and I longed to see her as she actually is, leaving behind all memories, good or bad. It was like a prayer that I thought: “Please let me see Mami the way she is.” My prayer was answered at once.
What a light, bright, loving, happy being I was shown!
Joy and gratitude were all I felt. This was the real Erika, cleansed of all memories.
I lay there for a long time, basking in the vision of my mother.
What a terrible crisis I had had. At home in Munich I had already repeatedly stood in high-rise apartments in front of windows and stairwells, ready to jump and finally end this abysmal despair.
Was that my fourth acute, long-lasting depression? In any case it was the second one I’d tried to master with antidepressants, and naturally with psychotherapy as well. I’d already undergone two treatments that had lasted for years. One was a 4-year body and breath centered treatment and the other 3 years of classic psychotherapy. Then there were the three years of training as a breath therapist, which could be regarded as a therapeutic process in its own right. I’d certainly learned and experienced a lot through all that, but the real breakthrough had not happened. Then there were the various spiritual paths that I had tried and sometimes even followed
for a fairly long period—such as traditional Christianity, esoteric Christianity, Yoga, Sufism, Satsangs, Buddhism, Reiki etc. They had often hinted at this breakthrough and even brought me tangibly closer to it, but in my case, they had not succeeded in bringing it about.
So, now I was fifty and forced by ill health to accept early retirement, which I saw as the total failure of my careers, both as an actor and teacher of breath work. Plus I could hardly move anymore, which from the point of view of conventional medicine was due to my MS. Somehow everything hurt, was cramped and stiff. My feet burned so much that I could hardly tolerate socks, let alone shoes. I often ground my teeth and picked at and chewed the skin around my fingernails. The only thing I “enjoyed” was sleeping, except that I was panic-stricken at the thought of waking up and having to face another day of yawning emptiness, feeling ill, feeling paralyzed, feeling sudden urges to pee, feeling dizzy. Worst of all were the unpredictable outbursts of self-abuse. This could take the form of slapping or hitting myself in the bath. Then there was the other extreme of allowing my body to literally freeze up by sitting in one place for hours without moving my feet or legs.
Thank God my wife Evi always stood by me and pulled me through even though she herself was more and more affected by my condition. Of course she had to go to work during the day and so I was left to myself, my physical ailments, and even worse, my increasing mental confusion.
Some of the very few people I remained in contact with were the members of an A Course in Miracles study group that had already helped me a lot during my last year- and-a-half-long bout with depression.
They repeatedly invited me to join them and take part in seminars all over Germany, which I occasionally did.
Then they planned a several-week-long seminar in the middle of the Sinai Desert with the title “Stillness in You” and repeatedly invited me to attend.
The whole thing created sheer panic in me. How was I supposed to survive even the 4 hour flight to Sharm el Sheikh? How was I supposed to get around in the deep sand with my massive difficulties in walking? Not to mention the intense heat there!
Nevertheless, I had already made my decision to go to the desert months before at a seminar I had attended in Berlin. Raising my crutches in the air, I had happily announced, “I am going to the desert!”
But the panic that broke out in me afterwards was sheer mortal terror, for months on end. It got to the point that I would rather commit suicide than let myself in for this seemingly so strenuous journey. How was I supposed to move in the desert? Me—the one who would usually sit in a paralyzed state, fearfully feeling my legs getting stiffer and stiffer.
Again I heard this clear voice of wisdom within me:
“In truth you have spent most of your time repeating your killing mantra over and over again. That is resentment, pure and simple.”
At any rate, there was an angel who came with me to the airport (most of the other participants in the seminar were already in the Sinai) to hand me off to the next caring angel who took me under his wing during the flight to Egypt. And then there were all the other angels who would encourage and support me, mostly over the phone.
Before I knew it, I found myself in a wet sleeping bag one night in the middle of the Sinai Desert under the stars. It was my first night in the desert and in the sleeping bag. There was a cold wind. I was so drowsy that I didn’t hit the peeing jar in the dark. The others were laying spread out behind rocks and gorse bushes. Of course I got help with my wet sleeping bag, but as far as I was concerned it was not enough. I wished for someone who would do nothing but look after me non-stop—someone who would anticipate my every wish and do everything for me.
When I was supposed to get dressed quickly to go to session in the tent at 4:30 in the morning, I lost it and blared uncontrollably, “What is this shit?! I didn’t come here to get more stressed out!” I yelled into the quiet, predawn desert. Here and there, a figure on its way to meditate glided in the direction of the tent. There was no answer. My roars faded into nothingness. All I got were a few words of admonition afterwards in the tent from Michael, the facilitator.
Later on, Ana and Bernhard, who had helped me so often before, and who had slept right near me this first night in the desert, moved their things away from my sleeping area without explanation. Again I had another reason to feel hurt. And of course I did, until the two co-organizers of the desert excursion, Maria and Hans-Juergen, took pity on me and suggested a new sleeping spot about thirty meters away from them.
The next morning at breakfast on the sand dune I had to speak out, “I’ve got to have more help. I can’t cope here.”
Quite apart from the symptoms of paralysis, as a result of my deep depression I had developed increasing difficulties managing the simplest daily tasks. For instance, it would sometimes take me hours to decide which socks I could tolerate with the painful neuropathy in my feet. And I was often overcome with such leaden fatigue that in the midst of doing something, my movements came to a halt and I fell asleep in whatever position I happened to be in at that moment. I had trouble coordinating even a simple series of actions. I had only a suitcase and a bag to keep track of, yet even with these few belongings I was worried and fearful that chaos would take over.
On top of those concerns, I realized that moving on the sandy terrain was much more strenuous than I had thought.
“This situation here is your own responsibility”, was the essence of Michael’s answer when I asked to be taken care of more. “Nobody forced you to come here. I had suggested that you attend just the part of the seminar that we’ll spend on the beach by the Red Sea next week, because we thought—and so did you—that this might be a little extreme for you. Well, you’re here now. But don’t expect to get special treatment from anyone here. There will be help if you need something specific—there are enough people here that you can turn to. But be clear about what you need. It’s not our job to support you in weakness, helplessness and confusion that is of your own choosing. You are just as capable and powerful as anyone else here. If you don’t like it, call a taxi and go back to Sharm el Sheikh and fly home and get care and assistance. You have enough money. Is this brotherhood and love in action?” Everyone in the circle said loud and clearly, “Yes.” Everyone except me.
After a little pause Michael added, “And if you want to be depressed, be depressed.”
“I don’t want to be depressed at all,” I said.
“Good, then don’t try to get our attention with it. You are a whole, holy, perfect child of God like anyone here. All power is given to you. So if you want to mope around being depressed, do it. Feel free. But keep it to yourself, and be assured that it doesn’t bother us if you do.”
With this the conversation ended.
I was told later on that I didn’t show much reaction on the outside, but all hell broke loose inside of me. It felt as if all the negativity of my life had narrowed down like a spearhead and concentrated in one single tiny spot. It was the essence of hurt and humiliation and the helpless rage at feeling that way. I could have killed them all—those seemingly healthy ones who tell you that you are responsible for everything. They were worse than those who bombard you with well-meant advice.
All I wanted was to finally die. Finally leave this cursed vale of tears called “life”, where everything was futile in the end. Where everything has to die eventually.
Every now and then this disastrous multiple sclerosis had seemed to me like a slow death—like taking leave of one healthy bodily function after another in a kind of slow motion which offered the hideous privilege of experiencing every bit of it in detail. I abhorred every bit of it.
I lay in my sleeping bag seething with rage. I brooded over how I could manage, in my debilitated state, to arrange an early flight back. But what would I do back home in Germany with my little bit of severely disabled life? To drop out now wouldn’t change any of my despair. It would be sheer poison.
The very next moment I wondered how I could manage to climb one of the high rocks in the area and jump off. But it was no use. In my condition I would never muster the strength to even get up on the rock.
Then I again felt this bottomless rage towards the people here and especially towards Michael and the cool, matter-of-fact manner in which he had flung his wisdom at me.
In my mind’s eye I saw how I wiped everybody out with a big machine gun.
Days later Michael said to me, “You have no idea how much Bhakti was with you in spirit after our conversation.”
The Holy Instant
“This ‘I’ who hates is exactly what we call the ego. In the end, it’s none other than a savage attack on yourself. And the task of the spiritual teacher is this: to make you aware of all your negativity and all your grievances, to show you that it is all of your own making, and to show you the tool that you can use to repair this false construct of your infinitely free and loving spirit: forgiveness. This is the practice of the Holy Instant.”
“Sooner or later you must see that the ultimate goal of this hateful ego is to kill your Self. But that’s not all. You can only achieve true liberation through the realization that you alone brought this ego into existence. This is why we repeat over and over that you are responsible for everything in your experience. This includes death, of course. It is your ultimate personal choice to experience a world in which everything dies. Strictly speaking, you are here because you want to die. You are here because you want to experience limitation. That is the only reason, and the ego is the faithful agent of your divine will. Do not forget that your will is given to you by God.
So what is the solution? Bring all of your grievances to the Holy Instant. All this turmoil. All this nervous excitement. Bring all your despair and all your self-loathing.”
Michael had repeatedly mentioned that in the sessions, but it wasn’t clear to me how it was supposed to be put into practice. When he talked about it, Michael had often gestured upward with his hands and eyes, so I visualized releasing all my thoughts to someplace up above me.
It was the only thing I could do. Every other course of action was blocked. Again and again, I made the effort to envision myself handing over all my rage and inner fury to God or Jesus or the Holy Spirit or a loving higher consciousness.
“Yes, that’s right. That’s the way. Imagine light-filled hands that come to you from above. Place everything in them. You don’t even necessarily need to see that it is your own mind that creates all of your feelings and all of your desires and all of your distress. It is sufficient that you no longer keep anything for yourself. That is what letting go really means: you release all of your thoughts and feelings, whatever their nature, to the Intelligence that knows the way to the light, the way to freedom.”
All of a sudden a touch of completely detached serenity came into my mind.
How I could suddenly start to grin was completely incomprehensible to me.
At least I fell asleep while I was doing it.
Of course, when I opened my eyes at about 4 in the morning the sheer panic was back. How would I get dressed, how would I get myself together, how would I endure all of this without freaking out?
After the following session, which I again barely understood, Michael once again made the suggestion that anyone who so desired could make use of the time by fasting for five days—not for physical reasons, but as a way to free ourselves from the mental knots that are nearly impossible to undo in any other way.
I was game, admittedly only because I was certain that during the eight or nine days in the desert I’d be constipated anyway. Surely that would be more bearable with an empty stomach. Yet they had made a special “throne” just for me—my friends had sawed a hole in the seat of an ordinary plastic chair …
“I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience and I decide upon the goal I would achieve.”
A Course in Miracles
”And don’t forget to steer clear of Christoph. He really needs solitude.” Those were Michael’s parting words after our group breakfast on the deep sand of the dune. He had said it once before during his morning talk, and the words were like a punch in the gut.
Solitude—you’ve got to be kidding! I’d had more than enough of that at home. It was the last thing I needed now.
Since my depression had set in over a year before, I had gotten myself so wrapped up in the symptoms of my MS that loneliness was the logical consequence. My thoughts constantly revolved around all the things that were going wrong, all the things I couldn’t do. Of course everyone soon got tired of hearing about it. At the same time, I couldn’t stand the people who did want to hear about it because they saw it as a validation of their own suffering.
As a result, I’d gradually broken off most of my social contacts, and I mostly sat or lay around the apartment and observed myself gradually losing my mind.
On top of all that, my physical capabilities were deteriorating. I’d lost not only the ability to walk—I now used crutches all the time, and occasionally a wheelchair—but also, due to the buildup of excess urine in the bladder, I was incontinent. This had so often landed me in embarrassing situations where I couldn’t hold it and had to pee somewhere in public that I had become pretty thick-skinned about it. I always carried a so-called “Uribag”, a small plastic bag that you could fold up and put in your pocket, ready to use when the urgent need arose. Once, standing in the checkout line of a supermarket, I even managed to pay with one hand while I did my business with the other. I did this without anyone noticing—at least I don’t think anyone did. Of course, that was during a period when I wasn’t depressed; otherwise I wouldn’t have dreamed of pulling such a stunt …
So—I had begun to fast. I pulled the list of contraindications for my anti-depressants out of the packet and once again read how dangerous it was to abruptly cut them off, that you shouldn’t do so without consulting a physician. Then I crumpled the whole thing up and threw it in the small trash bag that lay on the sand beside my suitcase.
The meds hadn’t changed my feeling of isolation one bit anyway, and they couldn’t fulfill my desire to die.
My wife Evi claimed that my state of mind had brightened since I’d started taking anti-depressants nine months before, but I hadn’t noticed much of anything. I just kept yearning to finally be more involved in social activities again, and I was sure that it was the only way I’d be able to truly defeat my depression. Yet when the social events took place, for example a get-together with friends, I felt all-too-quickly overwhelmed, and was happy to be alone with Evi again, not havingto talk about something that didn’t interest me. Most conversation focused on the ephemeral anyway, without offering an imperishable alternative.
“What is loneliness, then? It is not a thought of God. God has no thought of suffering. The entire divine creation is God’s thoughts. You are a thought of God. Loneliness is not a thought of God, yet there seems to be someone who experiences it. Is it you? As a perfect child of God, can you possibly experience anything as other than perfect? No. You need something to do that for you. An instrument. That which you call the ego. And since God doesn’t provide this agent, this instrument, you’re forced to do so. That is to say that the ego that perceives itself as separate from others is of your own design. This construct makes it possible, through yourown will, to perceive a world full of imperfection. So it is only through the ego that you can possibly experience something like loneliness. Then what is loneliness, really? Your will. What is impermanence? Your will. What is hate? Your will. “
At home,how often I had envied small children being pushed in strollers by their parents—children who seemed to know nothing of a hostile world and who had their whole lives before them.
How often I had been watched anxiously by seemingly healthy people as I laboriously dragged myself around on my crutches. Their looks said: “I hope that doesn’t happen to me someday.”
”And all this self-pity … Know that it is you who calls it into being.”
Again I recalled that it was indeed entirely my own doing that I now found myself in this sick and hopeless state.
A good year before I had let some promising career prospects slip through my fingers, as translator and reader/performer of poetry by Rumi, the renowned Sufi mystic. I’d been unable to publish a book of Rumi’s poems that I had translated from the American version of his works by Coleman Barks. And I’d subsequently backed off froman appearance at an “Evening with Rumi” that a friend Claudia Matussek, an overtone singer, and I had already put on twice before. I had cancelled for fear of another attack of dizziness or incontinence, or so I told myself. The reality, very well concealed behind a wall of insecurity, was that I just didn’t feel like making the effort any more. After all, I could justify all my failures with two words: multiple sclerosis.
“This unconscious refusal to pursue your project—where would it take you? To feelings of guilt and failure. And where would your guilt take you? To solitude. And where would your loneliness take you? To death.
Mission accomplished. MS is a great means to that end, because what really happens with it? Your capabilities shrink more and more. Remember, the more your belief in your illness grew, the less you were able to do. Hence your fear of this trip. It forced you—literally and physically—to be once again capable of more than someone who’s on his deathbed.”
Lying in my sleeping bag the following night, for the first time in a year I felt like moving and stretching my limbs, even doing a few light muscle-building exercises. In the cool of the desert night it was much easier than in the heat of the day. While I was doing that, I got the idea of arranging a seminar for Michael and Bhakti in Munich if they wanted, and all at once the long yearned-for feeling was back: joy in being alive.
“This was the first time in a long time that you’ve given a thought to someone other than yourself.”
In the days that followed, I gradually recovered the ability to organize myself better and with less effort.Just as I’d experienced with my two previous bouts with depression, it was an uneven process—a brief ray of hope followed by longer periods of fear and confusion. Then another bright spot that lasted a little longer this time. Then the darkness of the soul, then brightness again.
It went like that for the remaining days of the fast, but with increasingly longer periods of brightness. Little by little, I regained confidence in my ability to keep my belongings in order.
During the sessions—Michael’s talks—I also began to understand what he was talking about more and more. Then one evening I began to mentally translate Michael’s words into English as he spoke. After all, during our long telephone conversations in Germany before this trip, one of the reasons that Michael had tried to persuade me to come along was so that I could act as an English interpreter later on in Israel. So—I decided to get some practice.
Silently translating Michael’s words in my head, I sometimes felt almost euphoric. I saw how the mental activity not only strengthened my ability to think, but also that “right-mindedness”, as the Course called it, returned to my conscious awareness. As Michael spoke, I could feel how he was accessing an inner voice that was whole, holy, truly healthy, truly loving, and able to distinguish the difference between truth and illusion. As I took in his words, they began to awaken my own whole, holy, healthy, happy inner voice. In other words, his love called my love to mind, and it was clear that it was not a case of two different loves. Just as God is One, genuine love is One.
Then there were situations where I was wild with rage and desperation. For instance, the time that, in the middle of a session, I suddenly had to pee. I somehow managed to struggle to my feet, tottered outside and staggered around the corner of the tent—and there sat two of the Bedouin attendants looking over at me. So I went off to find someplace in the open desert. I just made it to a gorse bush that I could hold onto in a pinch. Wobbling precariously, I did my business and was attacked by the usual insane swarm of flies that were attracted by the yummy urine and mucous. The crowning glory was that I lost my balance and fell in the deep sand of the desert.
No one came to my aid, but in the light of the luxuriously setting sun wise words sounded softly from the nearby tent …
”Forgive … ”
“It’s beautiful that we have come so far. From here on, from now on, our two voices will join and be one. Therefore let us put the past completely to rest; let us put to rest all the thoughts that want to make us believe in the importance of finishing this report. It is already written in the heart of God. Everything is already fulfilled. There truly is nothing that needs to be accomplished. In reality, no effort whatsoever is necessary. What could be more important than fulfillment? More important than being completely filled with peace and joy and life?
To extend them.
“Who says so?”
A Course in Miracles.
“What does A Course in Miracles say? At the end it says: ‘Forget this Course’. It is not about the Course any more than it’s about this story.”
Unless … you do something simply out of joy. And because it brings joy to others.
As I said, in my sleeping bag at night I’d resumed my simple stretches and easy isometric exercises for building muscle. To lie awake in the cool desert night, making plans for seminars and feeling the muscles in my own body—muscles I had refused to move for so long—was like waking from a long nightmare that I had stage-managed in order to experience it myself.
Waves of gratitude filled me as I chewed my first date after six days of fasting and listened to Michael during our shared breakfast. Gratitude for the great clarity in which Michael would let this whole, holy, joyful, earnest inner voice come through. Gratitude for this wonderful spiritual teaching A Course in Miracles. And gratitude for this small, determined group of seekers and finders who had gathered here somewhere in the Sinai Desert to be free.
Of course, A Course in Miracles also consists of concepts and ideas and is therefore disputable. As such, it might be nothing more than a basis for discussion. And yet—when those concepts were allowed to unfold within the mind, when they were accepted as a possible truth and taken to heart, or better yet, one’s own heart is set in motion by them—then these concepts offered an inner grounding, a peace and freedom I had never experienced before.
The crucial idea is to accept total responsibility for literally everything we experience. Which should not be confused with being guilty. Yes, we made mistakes, but they are over. Yes, we make mistakes, but the next moment they are past. Lightning-fast we make a sort of recording of an event we just experienced and replay it in our minds over and over like a movie. This is the only reason that a past event affects a current situation. Once we become aware of that process and stop the recording—which is what forgiving is—we experience the present moment completely without judgment and everything can flow into it that is true life, whole life.
This cyber speed recording that we do in our own mind is usually concealed in a fog of unconsciousness, and we are even less aware of the fact that we are compelled to judge the experience. We divide into good and bad: positive and negative memories, light and dark, black and white. We create our entire world from this judgment game. We are also unaware that all this arises from our conscious decision to experience separation.
“What seems to be the fear of death is really its attraction.”
A Course in Miracles
So many people had prayed for my healing or at least an improvement in my mental and emotional state during the time I was so doing so badly.
First and foremost, Evi, my wife. She didn’t expect to be patted on the back, but quietly showed her love and compassion by keeping the whole practical side of our lives on track. I can only imagine how hard it must have been for her to deal with my illness-fueled mood swings and unpredictable outbursts on top of her professional duties. And I am eternally grateful for her unwavering determination to withstand the strong negative pull with which I attempted to bring down everything in my environment.
My intent to commit suicide had called forth all the demons of the underworld. Of course, they were all creations of my own mind, but at the time I didn’t know that.
My own death-oriented thinking, which was for the most part unconscious, had called these demons into existence. And I didn’t know how to stop this negative self-talk, or rather, I didn’t want to. I wanted death. I wanted to be dead. Not to be dying anymore, but to finally be dead. How well I could understand all the fragile, lonely people who, perhaps without realizing it, wanted to finally be dead in order to have a fresh start.
What a tremendous pull those death fantasies had for me. New lives flashed through my mind. Unhappy lives. They were forged from scarcity thinking, seemingly irresolvable conflicts, and irrational longings, and they played out in disadvantaged, underdeveloped regions of the world. As negative as they were, such images had a magnetic attraction for me.
I could actually feel how, in them, the next incarnation of my mind wanted to be pre-programmed.
At the same time, it was those images that kept me from killing myself. I knew that nothing good could come of a suicide that would only bring pain and grief to my family and friends. As confused and miserable as I was, I did know that one should only take one’s own life when in a good mood, at peace with all fellow men.
Along with Evi there were others who stood by me during this difficult time, in both visible and invisible ways. They sent me their good thoughts and prayers. Among them were certainly my father and my mother, and also my son Gwendal, who always wished only the best for me in his own special way. Other friends and acquaintances helped as well: for example Helga who voluntarily looked after me twice a week, and Dr. Bumm, a psychotherapist.
I am also so grateful to Michael and his group. Michael repeatedly told me how he had had visions of me at the edge, ready to leap, and he had held my hand in spirit. And his friend and event organizer Wolfgang Bernardo and his wife Ana had often done so in reality by repeatedly getting me out of my hole and inviting me to their home and to seminars.
Since I had gotten to know Michael four years ago at one of his seminars, he had felt committed to helping me through this crisis. Three, four time per week I received letters from him and so often we had talked during seminars and on the phone. At a time, when apparently many others had turned away from me.
Through the Dead Sea
“There is a change for the trip back,” said Michael two days before our departure from Camp Zman Midbar, in the Israeli desert close to the Dead Sea.
“On the way to the airport we’ll stop for a couple of hours at the Dead Sea. It will be good for Christoph to take a dip in it.”
Here we go again: I was panic-stricken.
The last two weeks after our stay in the desert—first in a simple camp on the Red Sea, then a short week at another seminar with Bhakti and Michael in Israel, near Arad—my mental state had become more and more stable. Most importantly, I had gotten my fears around packing my suitcase under control. Now I had thought that there was only one more time that I needed to get my stuff together, and after that the long journey back would be a snip. The drive of a few hours to Ben Gurion Airport and the waiting period before the flight, which would leave after 10:00 PM, were not daunting.
Now all that had changed: I had to get ready for two legs of the trip, and they demanded different clothing. How was I supposed to cope … an excellent thought for producing fear again. My glands obeyed my unconscious command to the letter, and sure enough, my body broke into a cold sweat. At the same time my brain got another chance to produce the state of mental paralysis.
Then at the Dead Sea …
The blazing heat at this lowest spot on planet earth. The steel blue sky. I only made it into the jelly-like sea-salt concentrate by tottering over the burning sand in slow motion.
“Just think,” Michael had said before our departure, “the Dead Sea is really dead. Dead as a door nail.”
Deeper in the gooey liquid, at the place where you couldn’t stand up anymore, Michael and Bhakti were showing me treading movements that I imitated with great effort.
How happy and alive those two were, and the others as well.
At one point I lost my balance and was dunked completely under water because of the powerful upwelling of the Dead Sea. At that point I was apart from the others. The acridly salty water penetrated every opening in my head. All my muscles contracted abruptly; I became stiff as a board. I kept my eyes squeezed shut, they burned so hard. To breathe through my nose was unthinkable. It was just oozing. Thank God dear ole Felix, a young computer wiz, had just waved cheerfully at me and I could hear him on his way to rescue me. Floating face-up, I bobbed up and down in this Sea of Death, stiff and rigid and incapable of improving my position in any way. In my head it burned like fire.
As Felix pushed me toward the beach like a log, the intensely salty water poured out of all the openings in my skull. All I craved was clear water. All the while, Felix and I chatted animatedly in different languages and dialects about various questions concerning enlightenment techniques. Above all, I remember how grateful I was for his safe conduct.
On the beach Bernardo was waiting for us with a bottle of water. It didn’t take long till I could open my eyes again and take a shower under the curious gaze of some of the beachgoers.
Again I heard my inner voice:
“Yes, my dear, now you have written it. This is the power of memory. The whole of human culture consists of memories. Yet it is about moving on beyond memories to find your way to the Life that extends on and on.
If you let go of your memory in every moment, you open up to the formless.This is a joy beyond compare.”
END OF PART 1
OPEN THE DOOR LAUGHING!
The other day I was once again pursued by nerve wracking spasms in my lower legs at night. Soon after I had gone to bed my legs would start jerking and kicking involuntarily thus keeping me from going to sleep. I was dead tired, but had to get up anyway to do something about it. A hot shower didn’t really help, neither did massaging my calves nor hunching around nor Magnesium pills nor getting some fresh and cold air on the porch. I felt the muscles of my face were all tight in expectation of the next spasm which I could feel building up distinctly in either my left or my right calf before discharging and making the affected leg jump once again. To top all that I would constantly have to pee due to a tenacious bladder infection and had already used up three or four diapers just recently. Gosh, I was so tired of all this. Couldn’t stand changing those diapers every 15, 20 minutes and having those legs of mine jerk the next moment.
Every once in a while I thought of a good word or sentence too however like “Healing” or “Peace to my legs and to everyone” or “Thank you, dear Lord, for my health” trying to somehow really concentrate on these good intentions. The jerking and peeing would pull me out of this however again and again.
Then the memory of Nouk Sanchez’ Miraculous prayer for healing arouse in my mind. Here is the whole of it:
“Holy Spirit, my belief in ______(issue or problem)______ as real, causes me to feel
attacked, and to defend myself against it. In my
defense I am alone, isolated from your Love and True healing in my awareness. Yet the Truth is your Love and healing is all there is.
Nothing exists apart from your Love.
I recognize in choosing to believe this fear, I reject your Love and healing. And I defend myself from your Love, joy and peace. I now decide to bring my concerns and fears to you, Holy Spirit, so we can look upon them together. We will look at my list of defenses together. I ask that you shine your Love into my mind, and reinterpret these fears for me. Cleanse them and transform them into areas of healing and inspiration.
I acknowledge my only part in this:
1) I invite you in to look at these fears and judgments with me. I will not judge myself or another while we do this; instead I will leave a space of total non-judgment, so you can fill it with Love and healing.
2) As I look upon it all, I will say to myself with sincerity, “Even though this appears to be a problem, and despite any feelings of fear,
anxiety, anger, guilt or doubt I may hold, in this instant I open myself to receive healing through the miracle. I accept this healing. And so it is. Amen.”
(From The End of Death by Nouk Sanchez, undoing-the-ego.org)
I somehow tried to put the main parts of this prayer together in my mind.
‘Okay, holy spirit’, I thought, ‘let’s look at this crap together.’ Nothing happened. However at least the invitation was expressed, I believe.
Finally I decided to lie down again and try to get some rest even though it didn’t feel like those spasms or peeing attacks would stop. With another fresh diaper I went to bed. Simultaneously the honest and serious question arose: ‘Say, what does this mean? What’s the real reason for all that?’
Then somehow, strangely enough, there was relaxation in my legs and I felt I was falling asleep.
A very unusual experience followed. I knew I was sleeping, however I kept being awake and aware. And then, like an answer to my foregone question, out of an inner darkness figures appeared, a slow silent parade of all kinds of unloved shadow characters. Some were mutilated, some wounded, some menacing, some apathetic, some looked like beasts. I could see them all very clearly. I was fascinated. There was no fear involved in this, just fascination about this dark parade.
Finally, I guess, seven dark hooded riders came toward me. They looked exactly like the threatening riders from “The Lord of the Rings”. The central rider came straight at me, but since I knew this was MY dream, again there was absolutely no fear. I knew I was the boss of this dream. With much interest I looked directly into the hood of this central black rider. There was nothing but darkness there to be seen. And as I looked closer and closer into this darkness I fell asleep.
After a good night’s rest I found myself sitting on our cold wintery porch again drinking a hot morning-coffee and puffing a cigarette. Slowly the light of a clouded and foggy day came shining through. I had put on a new pair of diapers. The peeing-impulses were a lot more back to normal again and the spasms were gone entirely. I remembered my waking dream of the dark parade and also this saying from Jesus, where he talks of himself as being the open door. The open door. I believe this is what he wants each and every one of us to be. Open doors. Instead of being locked castles or huts.
In a telephone talk with our good friend Nina, a psychotherapist, we talked this waking dream over and I remembered a Rumi-poem I had translated into German for my first book of Rumi-translations after Coleman Barks. It seemed to fit perfectly to explain my dark parade from the night before:
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at your door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
(From The Essential Rumi – translations by Coleman Barks)
Meanwhile my bladder problems have diminished significantly and my nightly spasms are but short. What is astounding too is that my walking ability has gotten still a bit better after already having improved considerably since summer 2012, which had marked the end of a phase of 23 years on crutches and in wheelchairs.
Thanks to our Lord and His Living Holy Spirit!
Christoph Engen, February 3, 2014
THE SHIFT OF PERSPECTIVE
Withdrawing the perceived lack of perfection from situations that they appear to have – in one’s mind – is what brings us home instantly!
When I am not experiencing perfection, harmony, deep peace and utter happiness in any given situation, I still do recognize this lack of perfection in my very own mind. It is there where my experience of lack originates. The “outer” situation is but reflecting this.
This is exactly the point, where forgiveness sets in: in forgiving or letting go the lack that I’m just experiencing – or, so to say, in pulling it off of my awareness like a sticker -, instantly the reality of this given situation shines forth and I’m delighted to realize, that it hadn’t been lacking anything whatsoever and that it is nothing but another magnificent expression of our innermost home, eternal aliveness!
Outside in the dark early morning
There is a crackling in the wind …
Is this an enemy or friend?
An enemy, I tighten or I run away,
a friend and I am simply gay …
It is my thoughts …
My thoughts make up the world I hear!
Is this a world of joy or fear?
My thoughts’ responsibility
lies in my hands, this is the key!
Oh Hallelujah, I am free!!!
Christoph Engen, 2013